Dear You ,

 

I know whats going on !! I am there , struggling with you , trying to understand what happened and why happened.

I know they snapped back at you , when At work ,you mentioned that your project is getting impacted when they didnt finish their work .  Or  you are bad person in the family because you are asking your spouse to do something twice a day for past three months and they are not doing it and called that out. Only solution is Dont call out . Dont raise the risk . Sit quitely let the ship sink. Then let everyone shout for help , If you are in position to do something , and you want to do something , please do that , and if not , just walk away !!

So simple to mention and follow for other people but I know its not for you . I know you so well ! I know you cant leave,  you cant abandon.

I know how bad you are  in letting go . I know how easy for others to disrespect your boundaries and still you will be able to do nothing. I know how convinient it is to play you .

But I also know the history behind this , I know when your sibling made a mistake , it was called your mistake because you were eldest . You took responsibility . When they messed up and you took responsiblity , when your parents were not supporting enough of your decisions and you took your responsibility , You never had the option to leave, You knew somewhere in heart that you have to take care of everything.

And you did , and I am so proudof you , You should be as well .

But somewhere it has to stop , sometime you need to take a call. Not everything that happened at work place is your fault . You are a small unit of such a big work place you alone cannot make anything correct or incorrect.

At home you have such a big impact , if you are always taking responsibilities  of fixing things then your family will also learn that, to some extent that is correct as well, but is it always ??Let you spouse take that responsibility next time. loosen up the control.

Think about this , do let me know what you have decided. Will wait for your response.

-Garry